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Tuesday, March 25, 2014

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1 Cor. 7:6-9; 25-41 GOD'S WORD TO SINGLES
Intro: Singles are a swiftly growing portion of our society. In fact, only 42% of all households in the US are headed by single adults. Nearly 20 % of the adult population of the United States have never been married. The singles population increased 385% between 1950 and 1982, from 4 million in 1950 to over 19 million in 1982. In 1989, the Census Bureau noted that 39.9 million singles over the age of 18 had never been married. When you add to this the fact that 50 % of all currently single women have been previously married and that 50% of all marriages will eventually end in divorce, you begin to see that those who are single comprise a significant portion of our population. Then when you consider that as of 1987 there were 11 million widows and 2 million widowers you can see that there a whole bunch of people who are not living the married life today.
There used to be a time when people who reached their adult years in a single condition were looked down on, and considered inferior to others. However, that perception has begun to change. Many are making a conscious decision to remain single. They have a special place in the kingdom of God and there is a special word here for them this evening. This passage speaks only to those who have never married, who are ready for marriage, or to those who are widows or widowers. God's Word speaks to the issue of divorce in the passage we will consider the next time we take up this chapter.
Therefore, as the Lord gives us liberty this evening we will consider God's Word To Singles.
I. V. 7-8; 26-35 THE BLESSINGS OF THE SINGLE LIFE
(Ill. Some fell that there aren't any!)
A. V. 7-8 In Regard To The Will Of God - It is not God's will for everyone to be married! There is no shame or reproach in choosing to remain single if that is the Lord's will for your life.
(Ill. There have been times when being single was a badge of shame. In ancient Greece, unmarried girls were thought to be prostitutes. The Jews considered unmarried girls to be a shame and a disgrace to the family name. The Jews were particularly harsh on the unmarried. Jewish men who were single were said to have "slain their posterity and to have lessened the image of God in the world." The Jewish belief in marriage was so strong that they even taught that "a Jew who had no wife; or who had a wife but no children," was automatically forbidden from entering Heaven.)
Now, with all that in mind, we must remember that it is alright for a person to be single if that is the Lord's will for their life. I believe that we can say with all honesty that it is not God's will for most, but for those whom it is, God will give the necessary tools to meet the need. You see, to live a clean, faithful, godly and satisfied Christian life as a single, requires the gift of celibacy. If the Lord wants you to be single, you can be sure that He will "gift" you for that lifestyle.
(Ill. Dr. Percy Ray was a man with this gift from the Lord. In fact, he was engaged to be married to the daughter of Dr. R.G. Lee, but felt the Lord would have him to remain single, and as a result, God richly used him and blessed his life.)
B. V. 26-35 In Regard To The Work Of The Lord
1. V. 26-32 Singles Generally Have Less Distress - Singles typically face less demands physically, emotionally, materially and financially. The word "distress" speaks of one's needs. Generally speaking he needs of singles are less that those of their married counterparts. Two can not live a cheaply as one! Then, in verse 32, Paul uses the word "carefulness." This word speaks of stress and strain. Married couples have stress in their lives that singles simple do not. To say the least, singleness is not without its stresses and strains, but when a husband, a wife or children are factored in, the stresses become greater.
2. V. 32- 35 Singles Generally Have Less Distractions - There is no one to please or to answer to but the Lord. When 2 people are married, they are mutually responsible to provide care, love, intimacy and to meet the physical needs of their mate. Just ask anyone who was single for a number of years and then got married! Singles, however, are free to focus on the Lord and his will for their lives. There are simply less distractions in the life a single individual!)
(Now, less anyone misunderstand, neither lifestyle is more spiritual that the other. Each has its place in the work of God and each has its advantages and its disadvantages. The secret is finding God's will for your life and then exercising the gifts He has given to you!)
I. The Blessings Of The Single Life
II. V. 9, 36-40 THE BURDENS OF THE SINGLE LIFE (When one is single, there may be certain needs that cannot be legitimately met. These can include physical needs, the need for companionship, the need for emotional support, etc. Those who have been gifted by God with the gift of celibacy have been given special control over their sexual drive and urges. Those who have net been called to a life of singleness do not have this special control in their lives. For those who have not been gifted in this manner, Paul advises marriage. In these verses, Paul speaks of the special burdens singles face.
A. V. 9 The Advantage Of Being Married - Inside the marriage relationship alone can physical needs be legitimately met. Along with that also comes the resources to meet other needs that require another human being. In verse 9, Paul says that it is better to marry that to "burn." This word means to be consumes with passion and lust. Paul is telling us that it is far better to marry and exercise the gift of sexuality in a legitimate manner that it is to practice fornication and incur the judgment and wrath of God in your life! If you cannot "contain", that is, if you cannot control yourself, it is better to marry than dishonor God!
(Ill. Verses 36-38 tell us of the Jewish tradition of a father's deciding who his daughter would marry. However, Paul tells us that contrary to tradition it is acceptable for a young person to remain single if that is the Lord's will for their life.)
B. V. 36 The Approach To Marriage - When and if a person decides to marry, there are certain rules laid down here that need to be noticed and diligently observed.
1. V. 36 One Should Marry Only After Waiting On The Lord - This verse had reference to a father who has refused to marry his daughter to the first fellow that came along. Instead, he has waited to find out what the Lord's will is for his daughter and this is acceptable, even if society disagrees.
(Ill. Marriage is not something that should be rushed into. Rather, marrying is a major decision that requires prayer and much caution. Many have rushed in a marriage and have lived to regret it before too many years had passed. Many have wound up divorced and disqualified for some duty in the Lord's work because they failed to answer some simple questions that need to be addressed by all who are contemplating marriage.
1. Is this person I am seeing right for me?
2. Are we mature enough to be married?
3. Are we ready to carry out the responsibilities of marriage?
4. Are the circumstances favorable for a good, godly marriage?
5. Is this the Lord's will for my life?
(Ill. God's ideal for marriage is that is be a permanent union between one man and one woman for one lifetime. Anything else is something other than that which God intends for me to be involved in. Ill. One girl heard her pastor preach on marriage and he was forceful that it was to be one man for one woman for one lifetime. After the service she came forward and said to the pastor, "Pastor, I want to talk with you about this business of one man for one woman for one lifetime." He asked her, "Don't you agree with it?" She said, "Oh yes! I just want to get in on it!" She was looking for a husband to met some need she felt and was willing to take the first fellow that came along. I believe that folks should be very cautious and patient when considering marriage. God has that perfect person in mind for you life and He will bring them to you when His time is right. Marriage should never be rushed into, but should be entered into patiently and cautiously and always in the will of God.)
2. V. 36 One Should Marry Only Within The Will Of The Lord - The term, "he sinneth not" brings a spiritual element into the discussion. Apparently the father in question is concerned about the Lord's will for the marriage. This is an area where not enough can be said about being sure as to what the Lord wants. Many people have married someone because of the way they looked or because they had a little money or because they met some need or the other. The real issue is this, "Is this person the one God wants you to be married to for the rest of your life?" Now, I can say this for sure, If you are saved, God will never lead you to marry someone who is not a Christian, 2 Cor. 6:14-16. You might do it on your on and it might work, you might even be able to get that other person in church and eventually see them saved, but that is they exception rather than the rule! Generally speaking, the lost spouse will eventually win over the faith of the saved spouse! Folk, it is never God's will for you to marry outside your faith!!!
(Ill. Many could have saved themselves much heartache and problems had they simply patient and if they had approached marriage spiritually instead of from a fleshly point of view!)
C. V. 39-40 The Allowance For Being Married - In these verses, Paul turns his attention to a third group of singles. Those who are single because of the death of their spouse. Paul's teaching is that it is perfectly acceptable and right for those who have been widowed to remarry. He does, however, add this condition: "only in the Lord!" Again, the Bible is teaching the necessity of waiting on the Lord and of finding a godly spouse. It makes no difference how old you are or how you feel about this issue. The only thing that matters is what the Lord has said about it. And He has said that men could marry, but only in the Lord!
Conc: It is obvious that Paul elevates the condition of singleness. He seems to be telling us that the primary relationship in our lives is that one which we have with the Lord Jesus Christ, and that maintaining that relationship is easier if one does not have a spouse to worry about. However, at the same time, He lets us know that marriage is acceptable to those who decide to marry. I guess the best advise that Is can give in this area is that you find the Lord's will for your life and abide therein!

Monday, March 17, 2014

stand for what you want eventhough it is meant to stand alone!!

stand for what you want eventhough it is standing alone...it is easy to achieving things you want..stay focused...

Achieving things we want in life :p

Everybody has dreams and goals to achieved,yet some are achieved and some are broken due to unavoidable reasons.Everybody thinks in a different way and yet the main idea of thinking just varies due to different personality.When facing a difficulties,the main idea is to keep calm and think of how to get rid of it rather than ignoring it to solve by itself..
People tend to enjoy life with having maximum with drinking,flirting and yet they make they make the best decision.. to me..drinking is just for family reunions...happiness is beyond drinking and having fun with worldly things... happiness is making others happy but to start,,start it with yourselves..everybody has a reason to be happy..to me its just being with my loved ones...family...friends...maaruthi..and yet i fill happy instead of drinking and flirting with unknown guys...